“We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full.” – Marcel Proust
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Self Care During Loss
This is taken from griefcounselor.org
• Lie in the sun streaming in through your windows. Bathe, breathe in the sun.
• Designate an afternoon or evening and take the phone off the hook.
• When you are worried or obsessing, set up a specific time of the day to “worry” for 20 minutes. Set a timer. When time is up, do something rewarding for yourself.
• Do something you’re good at. It is important to ground yourself in your skills and abilities, even if the outcome isn’t up to par (trouble concentrating and decreased zest are common in grief)
• Comfort yourself by taking a warm bath using your favorite scents, and burn aroma therapy candles—it’s invigorating and relaxing at the same time.
• Buy yourself or your loved one a gift—and have the clerk gift wrap it. Choose the prettiest paper and bow. Celebrate fond memories.
• Wrap up in a warm blanket. Put on relaxation tapes and sip on your favorite tea or hot chocolate!
• Dressed in comfortable clothing, find a rocking chair and “rock your troubles away.”
• Play music that matches your mood. Feel understood by the songs and singers that share your experiences.
• Especially when you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, forget about making “to do” lists, and at the close of each day, make your list of “what’s been done.” No wonder you’re tired!
• Burn Russian amber or sandalwood incense.
• Find something alive to care for: plants, pets, fish, etc.
•Eat at least one nourishing meal each day, even if the food doesn’t hit your taste buds like you’re used to.
•Put a fire in the fireplace and do some stretching and focus on yourself. (You can add your favorite soft music to this).
•Breathe—really breathe! Full belly. In through the nose, slowly out through the mouth.
•Say “No” to something…(and “Yes” to yourself).
•Try gentle exercise like yoga, tai chi, or walking.
•Spend some time in nature. Hug a tree!
•Make a memory box, collage, or journal to store your thoughts and memories.
Arrows of Hope
Awakening Grace has chosen to serve families experiencing the tragic loss of a child during pregnancy and infancy by sending love and hope in the form of a care package. Our care packages are fondly referred to as “Arrows of Hope” as we like to think we are sending out a bit of hope to each family that receives one. Each Arrow includes the following:
- birthstone charm bracelet
- handmade”hope” keychain
- lip balm
- journal and pen
- snacks (including Stroopwaffels for our Dutch origin)
- handmade wedding dress bear
- recommended booklist
To recommend someone to receive or something to add to our Arrows of Hope, please contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
To donate via our Amazon wish list please visit http://a.co/du5Nvah